A decade ago, I was at my sister’s, and I could see that she was upset about something. I asked what was going on.
"I went for an audition for a TV commercial,” she said. “And I don’t know if I got the part.”
“If they haven’t called you back yet,” I told her, “then you didn’t get the part.”
“No,” she said. “I’ve talked to other people that were at the audition. Everyone has been called and told whether or not they got the part. Except me.”
I thought about the situation, and then asked, “What’s the benefit in them not calling you?”
“There is no benefit,” she said.
“If there was no benefit,” I said, “then they would’ve called. Now, just ask the question to yourself again, and tell me the first thing that comes into your head.”
She thought about it for a while before replying, “Maybe I’m not ready.”
“What do you mean, you’re not ready?” I asked.
“I’ve just started my new business,” she said. “And what if they schedule the commercial when I have a client. I don’t have many clients yet, and I don’t want to have to cancel on them.”
“If they schedule the commercial on a day when you have a client, can’t you reschedule?” I asked.
She nodded, but I could see that she didn’t want to do that. She was worried about looking unprofessional to her new clients.
“What do you do with your clients?” I asked.
“Many of them are looking to create a new image,” she told me. “So I take them out and help them find outfits that match that image, and select colours that enhance their look.”
“So you take them shopping,” I said.
“There’s more to it than that,” she said.
I nodded. I knew there was skill and science to what she did because I had her buy many of my clothes with me. “But fundamentally, you’re taking them on a shopping trip, and then applying your skills to give them great value.”
“Do you think your clients would be okay rescheduling the shopping trip?” I asked.
“I guess so,” she replied.
"Okay,” I said. “Anything else?”
“Well, what if I get more commercials?” she asked.
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“My husband got a commercial,” she told me. “And they liked him so much that they called him back for other commercials. If they want me to do more commercials, what do I do? It pays really well, but I want to get my business going. What if I can’t decide which is better?”
And there was a problem. She didn’t know if getting the commercial was the good thing or bad thing. And she didn’t know what would happen once she got the commercial. So the best solution for her was to remain in limbo.
“It’s your business,” I told her. “If they offer you more commercials, you don’t have to take them. If you take the commercials and they conflict with your clients, you can reschedule. You’re in control of the decisions, and you can build your business as quickly or as slowly as you want. There doesn’t have to be a conflict. Okay?”
I watched her process the information for a little while before she nodded. I felt the shift occur.
“So, is it okay if they call you?” I asked.
“Yeah,” she said. “It’s okay.”
And then the phone rang.
I smiled. “Pick it up. It’s them.”
She looked at me, disbelieving, as she answered the phone. When she finished, she told me, “I got the part.”
Her belief blocked the agent from thinking about her. When she let it go, the agent suddenly remembered that she hadn’t called my sister, and made that call.
You do this all the time. You buy other people’s stories, and they buy yours. And they do not even have to be in the same room. Your control of reality is not limited by time or space. You are a powerful being, and the stories you create are just as powerful. The only thing that restricts you from creating any reality you want, is the beliefs and stories you are holding onto that say you can’t.
From “How to Rewrite Reality” by Shiraz. Available on Amazon. https://amzn.to/2oLxDM9